Silent Treatment as a Form of Marital Conflict from the Perspective of Islamic Family Law (A Study in Karang Endah Village, Terbanggi Besar District, Central Lampung Regency)
Abstract
Silent treatment is a form of domestic conflict that is often perceived as normal, yet it has the potential to cause psychological violence and undermine family harmony. This study aims to analyze the practice of silent treatment within marriage and its legal standing from the perspective of Islamic family law, based on social realities in Karang Endah Village, Terbanggi Besar District, Central Lampung Regency. The research employs a qualitative method using an empirical juridical approach combined with normative juridical analysis. Data were collected through in-depth interviews with three married couples with different lengths of marriage, supported by observation and documentation, and analyzed with reference to fiqh literature, the Qur’an, hadith, Law Number 23 of 2004 on the Elimination of Domestic Violence, and the Compilation of Islamic Law. Data analysis followed the Miles and Huberman model. The findings of this study indicate that silent treatment constitutes a passive-aggressive communication pattern that leads to emotional distance, misunderstandings, neglect of marital obligations such as emotional and sexual support, and a decline in the quality of the husband–wife relationship. From the perspective of Islamic family law, this practice may be categorized as a form of nusyuz (individual disobedience) or syiqaq (prolonged marital conflict) when it is carried out repeatedly and over an extended period, as it contradicts the principles of sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah (Qur’an, Ar-Rum [30]:21). Its impacts include a decrease in trust and household stability, with resolution pursued through stages of counsel (mau‘izhah), separation of beds (hajr), and mediation by hakam (Qur’an, An-Nisa [4]:35). This study emphasizes the importance of religious education and ma‘ruf (ethical and respectful) communication in preventing similar conflicts, contributing both theoretically and practically to the prevention of psychological violence within marriage.
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